The Race to Nowhere in Youth Sports“My 4th grader tried to play basketball and soccer last year,” a mom recently told me as we sat around the dinner table after one of my speaking engagements. It was a nightmare. My son kept getting yelled at by both coaches as we left one game early to race to a game in the other sport.
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He hated it.”“I know,” said another. My 1. 0 year old daughter’s soccer coach told her she had to pick one sport, and start doing additional private training on the side, or he would give away her spot on the team.”So goes the all too common narrative for American youth these days, an adult driven, hyper competitive race to the top in both academics and athletics that serves the needs of the adults, but rarely the kids. As movies such as “The Race to Nowhere” and recent articles such as this one from the Washington Post point out, while the race has a few winners, the course is littered with the scarred psyches of its participants. We have a generation of children that have been pushed to achieve parental dreams instead of their own, and prodded to do more, more, more and better, better, better.
The pressure and anxiety is stealing one thing our kids will never get back; their childhood. The movie and article mentioned above, as well as the book The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids, highlight the dangerous path we have led our children down in academics. We are leading them down a similar path in sports as well. The path is a race to nowhere, and it does not produce better athletes. It produces bitter athletes who get hurt, burnout, and quit sports altogether. As I said to my wife recently, the hardest thing about raising two kids these days, when it comes to sports, is that the vast majority of the parents are leading their kids down the wrong path, but not intentionally or because they want to harm their kids.
They love their kids, but the social pressure to follow that path is incredible. Even though my wife and I were collegiate athletes, and I spend everyday reading the research, and studying the latest science on the subject, the pressure is immense. The social pressure is like having a conversation with a pathological liar; he is so good at lying that even when you know the truth, you start to doubt it. Yet that is the sport path many parents are following. The reason? FEAR! We are so scared that if we do not have our child specialize, if we do not get the extra coaching, or give up our entire family life for youth sports, our child will get left behind. Even though nearly every single parent I speak to tells me that in their gut they have this feeling that running their child ragged is not helpful, they do not see an alternative. Another kid will take his place.
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He won’t get to play for the best coach. I know he wants to go on the family camping trip,” they say, “but he will just have to miss it again, or the other kids will get ahead of him.”This system sucks. It sucks for parents, many of whom do not have the time and resources to keep one child in such a system, never mind multiple athletes. There are no more family trips or dinners, no time or money to take a vacation. It causes parents untold stress and anxiety, as they are made to feel guilty by coaches and their peers if they don’t step in line with everyone else.
You are cheating your kid out of a scholarship” they are told, “They may never get this chance again.”It sucks for coaches who want to develop athletes for long term excellence, instead of short term success. The best coaches used to be able to develop not only better athletes, but better people, yet it is getting hard to be that type of coach. There are so many coaches who have walked away from sports because while they encourage kids to play multiple sports, other unscrupulous coaches scoop those kids up, and tell them “if you really want to be a player, you need to play one sport year round.
That other club is short changing your kid, they are not competitive.” The coach who does it right gives his kids a season off, and next thing you know he no longer has a team. Problems Of Adult Education. And yes, most importantly, it sucks for the kids.
Any sports scientist or psychologist will tell you that in order to pursue any achievement activity for the long term, children need ownership, enjoyment and intrinsic motivation. Without these three things, an athlete is very likely to quit. Children need first and foremost to enjoy their sport. This is the essence of being a child.
Kids are focused in the present, and do not think of long term goals and ambitions. But adults do. They see “the opportunities I never had” or “the coaching I wish I had” as they push their kids to their goals and not those of the kids. They forget to give their kids the one thing they did have: A CHILDHOOD! They forget to give them the ability to find things they are passionate about, instead of choosing for them.
They forget that a far different path worked pretty darn well for them.
SHYBA Basketball. SHYBA wishes the best of luck to all of our coaches and players this season and would like all of our organization participants to keep our SHYBA code of conduct in mind each practice and game: AS A SHYBA PARTICIPANT, I am responsible for the success of the league, which is defined as safety, fun, learning, sportsmanship, and healthy competition. As a member of SHYBA, I shall treat with respect all the facilities the league utilizes. As A SHYBA COACH, I realize that while healthy competition and a desire to win can be positive, they should never be at the expense of my players’ ability to enjoy the game of basketball. My players have the right to a coach who is supportive and patient, who takes the time to work with each player, and who allows players to make mistakes.
My players have the right to play as a child, and be treated at a level appropriate to their physical and emotional maturity. AS A SHYBA PARENT, I will be supportive of my child by giving encouragement and showing an interest in his/her team. Positive reinforcement encourages learning, fun, and a healthy desire to compete. I will serve as a positive role model to my child by displaying good sportsmanship and respect at all times for coaches, referees, opponents, and my child’s teammates. My greatest possible contribution is to sit back and enjoy the game, and remember that basketball is played for fun. AS A SHYBA REFEREE, I am ultimately responsible for the enforcement of both the spirit and letter of the rules, to the best of my ability. Any player, coach, parent, or fan who commits an act which is deemed to be inappropriate by me (including taunting, arguing, or obscene language or gestures) will receive either a warning or immediate ejection from the gym, at my discretion. Most importantly, I will always remember that SHYBA basketball is for the players - not the adults.
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